James Burns
Great Gift Idea
Great Gift Idea
Are you looking for that special holiday gift for a friend or colleague? Why not give them something to think about. “The New 3Rs in Education: Respect, Responsibility, and Relationships.” Order Now At: www.behavioral-management.com using the convenient and secure pay pal system. To View the book open the attachment.
Only $20.00 includes shipping and handling.
Defusing Power Struggles Conference - January 11, 2010
Start The New Year Off Right With This Very Important Conference
DEFUSING POWER STRUGGLES WITH YOUR MOST DIFFICULT STUDENTS AND PARENTS
q DESIGNED FOR TEACHERS, ADMINISTRATORS, GUIDANCE COUNSELORS, CHILD STUDY TEAM MEMBERS, OR ANY YOUTH CARE PROVIDER
- Learn the symptoms of power struggles and how to deal with them
- Build respect and rapport with your most difficult students
- Develop language that confronts without condemning
- Break through the emotional wall of your students and increase motivation, compliance and responsibility
- Strengthen relationships with your students and parents
q PROACTIVE APPROACH FOR DEALING WITH POWER STRUGGLES
The Lie, The Con, And The Withhold
John Bradshaw the guru of the Adult Children of Alcoholics movement during the 1980’s and 90’s identified in his book Homecoming three different types of liars. He referred to them in three different categories; the outright liar, who will lie when it is just as easy to tell the truth, the con artist, who could sell ice to an Eskimo and make anyone believe just about anything, and the final one is the withholder, who believes that a partial truth is just as good as the whole truth. Bradshaw also went on to say the lying produces future pain, that statement speaks volumes and I couldn’t agree with him more. One of my favorite bible verses is “Beware your sin will find you out,” and it usually does. It usually finds us out at the most inopportune time, usually when we are striving to get something that is the desire of our heart. Lying will usually be discovered when we are in a relationship, because we may try and forget the past, but our past will never forget us. Behavior from the past has a way of being a red flag for those that we allow close to us, and men seem to be more involved with conning and withholding than do women. There is now excuse for it really and lying is a destructive influences in relationships, but it begs the question; why do men lie to women the way they do?
People Who Are Hurt Can’t Recognize Sincerity
I have often said that it can be relatively easy to forgive, but it is real tough to forget. True forgiveness comes when a person can live with the ongoing consequences of another person’s actions. Sometimes that’s tough to do, like when a drunk driver crashes into you kids car and leaves him or her a quadriplegic you want to forgive the person who crashed into the car, but seeing your child in a wheel chair for life can get real hard to take. It is very easy to profess forgiveness, but often as people we don’t always live what we profess, we live what we believe, and even the smallest amount of stress can reveal our true beliefs and yes our true character.
Free One Hour Faculty Meeting
The New 3Rs in Education:
Respect, Responsibility, and Relationships
Presented by the author, James Burns
ARE YOU A TEACHER, ADMINISTRATOR, GUIDANCE COUNSELOR, CHILD STUDY TEAM MEMBER, PARENT, FUTURE PARENT, OR ANYONE INVOLVED IN THE MOLDING OF A CHILD?
Open your eyes to the importance of instilling respect and responsibility in children, and the necessity of building positive relationships with them at the same time. Respect, responsibility, and the ability to build successful relationships with children - the “New Three Rs” - have truly become a prerequisite for teaching the old three Rs, of reading, writing, and arithmetic.
